How Common is My Christ?
April 2, 2010 by ryates
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Good Friday: Seemed like an appropriate day to read about Jesus’ crucifixion. So thumbing through John to chapter 18 where the story really gets started I expected to be reminded of the brutality of that day, perhaps access remembered images of Mel Gibson’s movie, reflect on God’s love for enduring so much for my sake, and possibly be stirred to some kind of emotional response…I mean, I should be stirred right? It’s Good Friday, I’m a Christian, I work for a church.
Reading the account I thought to be so familiar though, the imagery of the drama that unfolded on that day came to life for me in my mind as it had never before. Usually the character I focus on, who the movies are always about, and certainly who is ultimately the point is Jesus. But this morning it was the person of Pilate, the Roman Governor, ultimately responsible for the decision of Jesus’ fate, where my attention was drawn.
For the first time I saw in my mind’s eye just how common Jesus must have seemed to this man: seated in a governor’s palace with a carpenter, in working man’s clothes, bloodied and tired from the night before, standing before him. Though these moments recorded in John 2000 years ago mark the fulcrum of history to us, to Pilate then and there it was no more than a very difficult day at work. Throughout the account in John Pilate is contentious of his duty, seeks to make the wisest decision for his governorship, attempts to be just, in ways seems compassionate, and even wrestles with the implications of Jesus’ claims of divinity. But ultimately, when weighed against the pressures of life, the demands of the job, and the harsh realities before him, Jesus, the Carpenter Son of God, is someone to be dismissed.
Pilate gives Jesus to be crucified that his career may continue, offering a sign above the bloodied Christ’s head reading “THE KING OF THE JEWS” as a half measure of recognition that, had the circumstances been different, Jesus and His lordship might have been worthy of consideration.
Today the risen Christ still comes in power cloaked in humility, the images evoked by the crucifixion story this morning making me consider how often I am Pilate to my Carpenter King.
If we are not in the buckle of the Bible Belt here in Little Rock, we are at least in the big Turquoise inlay just off to its right; and here, to us, to me, Jesus indeed can be common. I get busy, I get selfish, I excuse my sin and enlarge MY kingdom, while posting my token sign with my business card or fish on my car proclaiming that Jesus might be my king under certain circumstances.
So this morning I knelt in repentance before my King who is patient and kind. Who IS alive, and does reign on high while crafting His dwelling place in my heart. My prayer is that His kingship would transcend my life’s convenience and comfort as His love transcended when He laid claim to His kingdom with three nails and a spear. By His grace I want to seek Him harder, listen to His voice more, and glorify Him most. After all, if He truly is King and not common is that not the least He deserves?
Happy Good Friday to all who know the riches of His Kingdom.
To the Sound of the Guns
March 18, 2010 by ryates
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I have been studying Ephesians recently and am almost at the end. This morning I started the “more than famous” armor of God section in chapter 6. I’ve seen enough dudes doing talks wearing bed sheet tunics and plastic armor to expect to pretty much blow through this last chapter having heard about the belt, breastplate, helmet, sandals, shield, and sword before (of course I’ll be wrong).
But this morning what arrested me and got me to thinking was the invective Paul gives three times in vs. 10-13 to “stand firm”. Going back to the Greek the word there is Histemi: To cause or make to stand in place before others or in the midst of/to make firm or establish/Uphold or maintain the authority of. To me it serves as a pretty good word to describe what an army, a soldier does (even if he is wearing a bed sheet). But what struck me was not the firmness of stance, something we all hope we would do do when faced with a challenge, but the aggressiveness of the stand as it is described in scripture. Paul talks about our resistance in the struggle, not endurance of a siege and therein lies my challenge:
If we’re talking soldiers and armor it is one thing to be well armed trained and equipped, that’s good, but if you don’t use that army, if you don’t put your soldiers in the right places, if you allow the enemy to move around you and dictate the terms of engagement all the equipment in the world is not going to bring victory (as an avowed history nerd I could site example after example but will spare you the ennui and me the embarrassment). There is an old military maxim used to describe how to effectively command forces in battle that states simply “march to the sound of the guns.” In essence this statement of bravery is saying use your troops where the battle is being fought. If I am to resist, if I am to stand, how often am I standing and resisting where there is no battle in the first place? If that is the case then how valid REALLY is my “steadfastness” and how pleasing is that stand really to my God?
As stated in Ephesians our struggle and our resistance is to the enemy, to Satan and his evil schemes. Every day I see and hear that battle raging, and not just on the front page of my favorite news site, but among my family members, at my workplace, and in the lives of my friends. That struggle hardship and suffering IS the battle, and how often am I content to observe, take notes, and maybe even offer “logistical support” instead of marching to where the battle is fiercest and resisting in a way that may be dangerous to me but that actually means something?
I’m not sure exactly why I shy from that conflict be it a desire for ease, distraction of self, or a lack of faith in my equipment and my God that strengthens me to stand. But the fact is that I am too passive, too self involved, too mis-deployed. Prayerfully I want to change that, and look forward to seeking how.
Vive la Resistance!

The Sanctity of Stuff
February 23, 2010 by ryates
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Live Well…pillar part deux of Fellowship’s new vision statement of what a Christ follower looks like who lives a life of irresistible influence (i2 if you’re in to both alliteration and exponents…you boomers you
). Seriously, I LOVE our new vision: love much, LIVE WELL, light the world. I honestly get chills every time we’re talking about it as I think it represents the stirring of a missional wind starting to blow fresh through our church.
But following Tim’s message last Sunday on what it means to LIVE WELL I’ve been really kicking around what that means for me beyond the bullet points and filled in blanks. Allocation of time, money, and passion have all been up for review: not necessarily in the context of good vs. bad usages, but more within the rubric of acceptable vs. excellent. The result of this introspection is the conclusion that I already live well; not as Tim or the corporate vision of Fellowship Bible intends: meaning redeeming every moment for the glory of Jesus; but I live well in the fact that my life is already filled with great friends, much joy, and so much more than everything that my heart could desire. I am richly blessed. I am able to spend so much of what I have and who I am on people and things I deeply enjoy (all by God’s grace to this sinner).
That does not mean that the syncopation of my “rhythm of life” is not borderline frenetic. My job, my marriage, my house, and where I have already been led to serve takes up a ton of time that I hope I can say in honest humility stands in right balance upon this further review. That said, just the thought of LIVING WELL as a factor of addition to my life leaves me breathless and ready for bed. I don’t think my plate as it stands is clear enough for even one more thing.
And that is where my answer rests in LIVING WELL: turning the fullness of the opportunities I have already been given, the relationships already gifted to me, the stuff with which I am already so deeply blessed towards the glory of my God who has so enriched me. I have a tendency to separate the temporal from the spiritual, the things of everyday life from the sacred, but if ALL things are from God (as Colossians 1:16 declares) then perhaps that distinction in reality does not exist. Seeing not only the Bible I study or the money I set aside to give as overt tools for the glory of God, but ALSO things as earthy as a pair of matinee tickets, a half tank of gas, or a box of Tag-a-Longs I was manipulated into buying by troop 682 with their cute as buttons cheer (“Girls Scout cookies rock the house….and they’re really good!”…truth in advertising to be sure). All of those THINGS can be given or enjoyed for the glory of God to my joy when done as they were intended: all the way, keeping His provision in my mind and His goodness on my lips. How good is it to celebrate being married to your wife with an intentionally screened rom-com, talk life with a new friend as you haul his equally new high def TV across town, or loudly participate in an enthusiastic cookie-chant at the entrance of Kroger with 6 other smiling munchkins wearing Hanna Montana apparel? If you have had moments like that when normal stuff of life elicits supernatural moments you know it is very good.
Maybe LIVING WELL for many of us is not found in the ceasing of some activities and the investment in others, but in being aware that even especially the common things in life can be sacred. So today I’m resolved to fully participate in every moment, apply everything I have been given to enjoying His provision and loving others, and not doubting that I am where I am when I am for a reason. I’m not sure what that’s going to look like, but I think that is LIVING WELL.
Aunt Bee’s Revolution
February 8, 2010 by ryates
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My wife and I live on an island. It’s not some secret gated community in the middle of Lake Maumelle, and as a dual income household we make enough that we have not had to relocate to that sandbar you can sometimes see from the 430 bridge. No, our isle is that of isolation: we are nameless strangers; owners of one big vehicle, one small one, and a squirrel-barking dog living cheek by jowl to other equally anonymous owners of Cobalts, Camrys, and a Camero (bet he’s got AWESOME hair). Anyhow, our island of isolation is thoroughly land locked just at the end of Shadow View Dr.
When Shannon and I moved into our first house in early December perhaps my visions of hand delivered freshly baked cookies, weekend block parties, and mountains of housewarming gifts were a little too “Mayberry“, especially smack dab in the middle of holiday season. But now that the decorations are long gone and the doldrums of February are underway we’re still yet to encounter any of our neighbors. Though we have done our fair share of cross-street surveillance, we have no real knowledge of the people that live just yards away apart from some wild speculation as to where in the Hoosier state the girl in the Mitsubishi that parks in front of our driveway is from (Indiana tags).
Even as I type here at Starbucks on a Friday night (Ladies night at the Yates’ house) the joint is packed with single occupancy tables filled with folks who have all come here to be alone together. Isolation is everywhere. Isolation is accepted. Isolation is even sought after. Phones, iPods, laptops all sprout earbuds which activate personal cones of silence, nodded “how’s it going”s are rhetorical questions mumbled to familiar strangers out of obligation, and garage doors go up and down to the predictable beats of our own solo drummers. I think we kid ourselves behind our keyboards sometimes, trying to “connect” in a world where every profile pic, status update, or message reply can be managed or spun with the appropriate amount of anonymity.
This is not me nostalgically pining for some lost ideal era: I got my first foam padded Walkman at age 8 and the indoctrination of isolation was on from there (Glass Tiger: The Thin Red Line was the cassette deck played in it by the way). This IS however me longing for a future…..
This 501 deal has been going on now for about 6 months, I’ve had a ton of fun, been richly blessed personally, and am excited about what is next for us all. We have visions of seeing God do great things, connecting people in community, spurring one another on to following Jesus, seeing lives redeemed, changing a city, a culture, a whole generation for Christ. Though things are rolling now we are still in the praying phase, still very much in the planning part of the mission we have embarked upon. We’re talking programs, events, teaching, groups, structures, and strategies. The feeling is that we may need to do something RADICAL, something that both understands the world which is emerging here in Little Rock while at the same time refuses to be so familiar that it fades into the background along with all of the other competing noises of distraction, duty, business, bosses, and beyonce.
What if that radical, rebellious, revolutionary, interrupting, counter-cultural thing was apple pie? Seriously…apple pie: the kind Aunt Bee would have cooling off her kitchen window Saturday morning. Such baked goods may seem benign, but applied correctly they may be just thing to use to crack a culture for redemption; to the gospel of Jesus Christ. What if that pie was not just for eating, but for sharing? What if that confectionery delight became a bridge that would span roadways, driveways, and front lawns? What if we were to invite our neighbors over to eat……………pie? How CRAZY is that? Now admittedly, eating pie does not sound rebellious except for the fact that NO ONE else is doing it!
What if it is not our programs, promotion, production, or planning that will reach isolated people here in Little Rock, but our HOSPITALITY. The theology of meal sharing throughout scripture is incredible (check it out here). Through the biblical narritive, the snarl that is human history begins with a meal taken apart from God, climaxes with a meal served through the sacrifice for us of Christ, and ends with a feast celebrating the glory of God and His son, Jesus. Throughout scripture and throughout OUR lives we see a shared table be what turns strangers into friends.
What if throughout Little Rock every week there were hundreds of tables that understood they were set through the gracious provision of a loving God which were openened in order to redeem acquaintance to friendship? How many relationships might be built that would introduce our new found friends (be they neighbors, co-workers, or family) to Jesus and His people?
Our city sees big every day churches but rarely if ever sees open homes. What if THAT is the radical calling of our mission. Have you ever thought about cooking for Jesus?
For most of us it is not the preparation but the invitation that makes this a frightening process. For those of you (dudes) that will struggle on both fronts you can download the recipe at the end of this post (I made it often even pre-maritally). But I challenge us ALL: LET US PRACTICE HOSPITALITY, even at the risk of being strange or rejected. I will leave it to you to consider prayerfully who and when will be invited, but let us step out in faith and do something CRAZY.
Hebrews 11:6 says: “…without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.” I want desperately to please Jesus, in fact, that is why I was made…for His pleasure. So would it not make sense that what He calls us to do would require of us the faith that is so pleasing to Him?
So let’s make up the grocery list, set aside a night of the week, and bust out a casserole dish. If we want to see Jesus change this city through us He will probably begin with our friends…so let us go make more of them!
Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ.” Let us emulate the ministry of our God and GET COOKIN’!
Living Through a Broken Heart
February 4, 2010 by ryates
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What I am about to admit to in sharing what God’s doing in me ain’t pretty. Hopefully exposing my ugliness will induce us all to run more fervently toward the grace given us by God in Christ.
Please, let’s carry this conversation forward, comment below…
What am I about?
January 26, 2010 by ryates
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Vlog #2. Been both convicted and encouraged to be about what God is about. All to often I do my own thing and hope God supports it. Makes more sense to actively run toward what God tells us directly He is about doing. Imagine the excitement, the closeness, the power in prayer to be directly in the path of the moving of God. That’s where I want to be.
What Sort of Faith
January 14, 2010 by ryates
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I’m trying a Vlog now, see if I’ll be more consistent.
God, my dad
September 22, 2009 by ryates
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On vacation this week in VA. It’s been super fun so far: just got done taking my wife to the ‘ol stomping grounds of my Alma Mater here in Williamsburg, told her stories about the “glory days” until she was bored stiff. Time together was a welcome change after the vacation began with a tornado of Legos, Star Wars, art projects, and potty training at my sister in law’s (They have 3 great kids). I loved every minute of those three days, but at 31…I was sore.
Though those days overflowed with laughter, joy, and Uga Chaka (by Blue Sued, not “The Hoff”) my favorite part of our time there was watching the kids be with daddy. My brother in law is a Marine and just recently returned from his third deployment in Iraq, knowing how much he had missed his kids, how much he felt he needed to make up for lost time as a dad, his passion for the growth of his children, it was awesome to watch the heart of a father.
Think John and his efforts resonated particularly with me this week because of how I am struggling to see my Lord. I’ve long wanted to be better at praying: more consistent, more passionate, more convinced of its worth and power. Desiring to change, I’ve latched on to Mark Driscoll’s sermons on prayer. I’m about 1/2 way through the series but the drum he keeps beating is seeing God as Jesus did: as Dad. When Jesus teaches HIS prayer the first thing He does is declare the knowing God as father, as Dad, is for everyone, He is our Father. Driscoll’s point is that once we really see God in that way: as Dad, a ton of our issues with prayer are solved: a good dad’s kids want to be with him all the time, a good dad’s kids love to hug his neck, a good dad’s kids love to tell him about their problems, listen to his wisdom, expect his help, a good dad’s kids ultimately trust his correction and even the stuff that hurts to be done for their own good. I can see God as powerful, as creator, as “The Big Guy” upstairs, but struggle with the closeness, “personalness”, the emotion of God as “Dad”.
That’s why as I am watching John be a good dad, as I watch him build Lego space fortresses, buy ice cream, enforce table manners, and skip a little girl down the street, I’m moved to be more like my niece and nephews and talk to my Dad, spend time with my Dad, and listen to my Dad. I am blessed with many great examples of good fathers in my life (including my own), but what I want and what I need is to come to my God as the Dad by which all other fathers are measured. In doing so I hope it will not be as a child that deserves a gold star, but as a kid that assumes that everything in life depends on the presence of my Father. I know that if I come that way He’s going to be right there to be known because that’s what good Dads do.
ParaKaleo
September 3, 2009 by ryates
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So we had a great community group a few weeks ago about encouragement. Tears of affection were shed (both guys and girls), we welcomed a couple new “members”, and had some fantastic summer sausage.
But for me both in the curriculum we were studying (Discovering Your Role in God’s Family at Fellowship) as well as the discussion that night I kept feeling that I was missing something. Most of the lesson was couched in a person’s need to hear something positive about themselves or their circumstances as well as our role as believers in Christ to be proactive in sending those positive words. Goodness knows I love it when someone tells me something I’m good at, or that I’m headed the right direction in the right way, but I still did not feel that that was really where I needed to go to hear what was being impressed on me concerning encouragement.
Since I am jobless at the time I’ve had the day to think on this a little and to do some digging. Our main texts for the study were Ephesians 4:29-5:2, Hebrews 3:12-13, and Hebrews 10:19-25: using the power of the Internet I looked into the original Greek meanings of some of the words used in these text, particularly the call to encourage in the Hebrews passages (http://www.studylight.org/lex/grk/view.cgi?number=3870). Turns out the word for encourage in the Greek is the word, “Parakaleo” (from Para: at, beside, near and Kaleo: To call) meaning “to call to one’s side”.
So that really got me thinking that if I am to REALLY encourage someone (biblically speaking) in a meaningful way that means that my position is as important as that person’s circumstance. What if in calling someone to my side what I am really doing is calling them to accompany me in comfort, or laziness, or selfishness. If that is where I am standing, if that is where I am content to be, then my encouragement is no better than “Barney Time”
0r mushy milk toast: Something that is sweet at first but in reality is too mushy and insufficient to be of real power.
In true community, real ministry, part of the body of Christ the onus is on me to be running after Christ, be walking in obedience, to be bold in what I give Him and how I live. That way when I call someone to my side, when I “parakaleo” I am calling them to be with me in something adventourous, real, and powerful.
The ironic thing, as I think about it, is that I naturally do not stand in that place of adventure. I find it difficult to get off my spiritual (and physical) couch and run after Christ so often. What I need as well is a Paraclete, someone that is running as well to call to me, someone that bears the name I want to bear. I need that kind of encouragement as well to live the life after Him that I want to live in my heart of hearts.
So I guess I’m resolving to live there this week, remain in a place where it is worth standing next to me, so that when I am used to “call to my side” it is exciting and life giving to be there. I’m just thankful for those around me who are already standing where I want to be. May we all be dilligent to have sides worth being called to, and be intentional to continue to issue that call, kaleo, whatever.
Para Kaleo


